Listening In
This morning I awakened early as the mountain outside my window turned pink in morning light. Amazingly, I heard the chirp of a new bird...a new voice in nature that have not heard before despite my belief that I am in tune and aware of my surroundings. Was it new? Or was I just more open to hearing it?
Perhaps the latter. Like many of us, I struggle with listening, yet I find it to be the quality that I admire so in others. When I am listened to, I truly believe that I matter. I am sure that's true of others with whom I interact. How often have I sat in a meeting with the answer to the question or the topic at hand so ready in my head that I have rushed to share my thoughts without providing the courtesy of truly listening to the speaker? It's something to work on for sure. I remember a project several years ago where I was working with ABC News on a client story where Emmanuel ("Mano") Kampouris, former CEO of American Standard, was interviewed. The topic was work and how people work. Kampouris was talking about a new method of just-in-time manufacturing and commenting that by being involved with the work above him and below him, each worker could " bring his whole being" to the job. He was talking about interest and involvement, not just showing up. The same is true of listening. Effective listeners bring their entire being to the conversation, allowing the sentences to complete and the pauses to happen, not poising to jump in. Effective listening is a skill.Now where is that bird? It must sing early in the morning because it wants to be heard without interruption as it sings its whole song.